Showing courage, personality development and the ability to say “no!”… Is there a study on this? I don’t know. But I believe that a person has completed his personality development to the extent that he says “no!” when and where indicated and necessary.

Maybe it would be more correct to say “to the extent that he can say “no!”, because to the extent that you say “no” you have accepted the risk of losing certain things in order to protect your personality. I call this showing courage. I think that ultimately showing courage, being able to say no and personality development are closely linked. It is strange that people who have nothing to lose still find it just as hard to say “no!” as those who have much to lose. They are afraid as if they have something to lose. You can imagine the importance of this issue in child education and all areas of psychological, sociological, political and economic life… Whereas courage, the taste of greatness of spirit when one says “no!” when and where necessary must be something very different…

Prof. Dr. Kemal Arıkan