“Phubbing” Can Harm Your Relationship

“Phubbing” İlişkinize Zarar Verebiliyor

Phubbing is defined as snubbing or ignoring the person in front of us in order to look at a cell phone. Even though it is not included in the daily language, this word has become a part of our behaviors in our daily lives.

Remember how frequent the conversation is interrupted when your friends (or you) pull out a cell phone and descend into the black holes of social media. This situation may seem to be harmless as a part of the modern life, yet it harms our relationships. Ironically, while phubbing aims to establish bonds on social networks, it deteriorates interpersonal relationships in daily life.

Some studies have shown that phubbing has made face-to-face interactions less meaningful and less satisfactory.

According to a statement published in the Journal of Applied Social Psychology, the people, who pictured that they were exposed to phubbing, were found to have been affected more negatively-adversely compared to those, who pictured that they had a conversation without a cell phone.

A research conducted in 2012 found out that the presence of a cell phone caused the people to feel less connected to one another even if they did not use the cell phone during a conversation.

Phubbing harms both parties

Recent studies about the topic found out that phubbing threatens the four fundamental needs: belongingness, self-esteem, meaningful existence and control. Two separate studies conducted recently show that the probabilities of depression and low marital satisfaction can increase when couples are phubbed by one another.

If you are the party who is phubbed, it is recommended that you initially change your perspective. Nevertheless, spare some time to calmly explain how phubbing makes you feel. Studies report that women and elderly adults show stronger reactions to phubbing compared to men and adults.

Seppälä, a researcher, says that creating rules, such as keeping your cell phone away while having dinner or having conversations with your friends, can be helpful if you are a chronic phubber. Other attention-based practices, such as meditation and awareness, can also help you retrain your attention capacity.

SOURCE:
https://time.com/5216853/what-is-phubbing/

Prof. Dr. Kemal Arıkan
Psychiatrist