The Issue of Porn

Before sharing my personal opinions, I’d like to give some information.

For a start, we must accept that pornography is the most common field of internet use.

In 2017, a porn site called PornHub was visited 28.5 billion times. It means, the number of daily visits only to that site is 81 million.

At least 4 million videos are uploaded on a daily basis.

Researches show that more than 90% of the entire humankind, female-male, young-old, watch porn.

According to the research made by the famous Kinsey Institute in 2002, %9 of that humankind are becoming addicts.

There are three points, which are called “triple A” by the Americans, which make pornography so common. It is easily accessible (accessibility), it is free (affordable), and the action being unanimous (unanimous).

Hesse and Floyd, two researchers being interested in this topic, determined that masturbation is the main motivation. Here, it is claimed that masturbation functions as a real intercourse.

They put forward two indicators to that end. The first one is the subjects answering the question “why do you watch porn?” by saying “I feel like I’m having an intercourse with the person in the video”, while another answer goes “It eliminates my loneliness”.

The second indicator is biological. They state that the release of oxytocin, dopamine and progesterone during and immediately after the masturbation done through porn increases, and that the same chemicals are the main biological elements of a real, emotional intercourse. So, humans solve two deficiencies via porn: loneliness and emotional deficiency.

When you analyze if there is a difference between women and men, it is determined that there is not a big difference. While men are watching porn 3 times a week, women do it twice a month… However, women get more emotional satisfaction through porn.

The fact that those, who cannot get enough affection in their real relationships, watch more porn is another datum supporting the relationship between emotional deficiency and porn addiction.

Yet, sometimes porn can be useful, too. For instance, it functions as a solution for those who have no partners for some reason. What’s more, some couples claim that watching porn together improves sincerity and increases intimacy.

Exhibitionism and voyeurism are two other motivations, which I believe should not be overlooked.

A broad array of fantasies may come into being. Whichever you are looking for…

Beyond all that, the discussions on “Is the sexuality that fundamentally goes through impulses real or not?” are somehow answered.

Sex and violence; the videos and games, where these two impulses are harmonized, have big ratings, right?

I have to add these risks, too: porn may turn women into a pure sexual object, into a commodity. A research, which revealed that the women suffering during the sexual intercourse are more appealing, shows that the passion for porn is an indicator for violent tendencies.

Then, couples may trivialize themselves by comparing themselves to the characters in those videos.

And finally, addiction…

I would feel happy if I provided an opportunity to have a short and unbiased look over the matter of porn which I tried to discuss with all aspects.

As a result, and from a personal perspective, I believe that real love is even closer than our carotid artery, and that we can find it in the skin, in the heart and in the soul.

At the least, I think the real love would be quite deficient in the dreams…